shutterstock_127850681In a recent post, Chris Brogan put forth some great thoughts on the nature of online connections and the impact they can have. I read the post, flipped to the comments section and started typing. After about 300 words, I stopped, cut the text, and pasted it here. Sometimes, a comment becomes the thing you should be talking about on your own blog. Thanks to Chris for the inspiration.

Internet celebrity is a curious thing. I often sit back and watch how guys like Chris and Gary Vaynerchuk deal with their “public”. They have a lot of demands and expectations put on them – sometimes, people are downright rude, too. They call out the A Lister because they haven’t replied to a tweet, or retweeted something. They whine and complain and take their toys and go home. I find it frustrating to watch this childish behaviour, and it makes me glad I’m not an A Lister (I hear the D List is making a comeback, anyway ;).

It all gets me wondering –  when will the mentality of “If I could only get an A Lister to retweet me, my business would THRIVE!” end? Probably never, but a girl can dream.

Attention Deficit

One of the most powerful opportunities that social media presents to us is the ability to get peoples’ attention. I still find it amazing that I can write on this blog, put it out to the Universe, and sometimes SEVERAL HUNDRED people will see it (sometimes). The other night I sent a tweet to Gene Simmons of KISS, asking him a question I’ve genuinely wondered about since I was 5 years old:

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And to my utter shock and amazement, he replied:

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What did this get me? A smile on my face, a 38 year old question answered, the envy of my big brother and a bit of fun with my friends on Facebook. That’s it. Attention happened, then nothing happened. I’m not going for coffee with Gene Simmons anytime soon, and I’m down with that.

Attention is the commodity of the Web, and everyone is scrambling to get more and more of it. But tweeting an A Lister and expecting that their response or their retweet is going to change your life? That’s just misguided.

Great Expectations

I’ve been retweeted by A Listers. While I always appreciate a shout out from a friend with a large audience, ultimately, it’s no big deal, and here’s why.

When you get retweeted by someone with a large following, it’s fun for a while to see the traffic spike. But that traffic is very, VERY fleeting. You get to ride the wave for the rest of the day, watching the retweets stream by, checking your analytics to see how many people have checked out your post. But I promise you, by tomorrow, you’ll be back down to your normal levels. People will have moved on. You’ll be just one of dozens of things they read that day. You might be memorable. You probably won’t be.

The expectation that you’re going to become an instant “Internet Sensation” just because Chris Brogan or Robert Scoble or whoever noticed you and liked what you did enough to share it with their audience is simply incorrect. It doesn’t work that way. It will never work that way. 

The Real Payoff

Here’s what you do, in the event that someone who is popular online shares your content. Pay very close attention to any new people that come along as a result – people that comment on your post, or share it themselves, or mention you. Focus on those people first. Follow them, and thank them for stopping by. Check out their web sites, profiles, and other things online. Be genuinely interested in them. You’ve been given an opportunity to start a new relationship, so start it. 

Your payoff won’t be thousands of new followers. It likely won’t even be hundreds, or tens. But that’s okay, because you know what? It only takes one great connection to create an opportunity, right?

So stop being so desperate to get the attention of the A List. Just be yourself. Produce good content, and put it out there, consistently. If it’s really good, the A Listers might just notice. Or they might not – stop caring about that. Forget about building your audience on the backs of the Chris Brogans and Gary Vaynerchuks of the world. Build YOUR audience. Find YOUR true fans.

Ultimately, those are the relationships that really count.

12 Responses

  1. Just more evidence that stop what I have described as the social media “head trip.” It’s not a head trip to be genuine, be consistent, take interest in people and generate good content. And I’m glad that you point out that “yes” Gene Simmons replied to you and “no” y’all are buddies all of a sudden.” It’s all just part of how things go. I have no idea why the Food Network follows me on Twitter, given the small number of people they follow compared to their followers. But I’m not waiting for Bobby Flay to call me to go shoot some pool with him.
    Thanks Suze! You’re a sober voice that reminds me to stay off the head trips, chill the eff out, and just do my thang.    🙂

  2. Interesting play (I was going to say “discussion”, but the word didn’t fit within the scope of a blog), around responses and achieving numbers.  Same kind of debate amongst artists in other media.
    But they typically raise a more fundamental question: for whom do I do this?  Is it to sell the art (painting, photo, sculpture) … to make a living, or is it a means of self-expression.  The amateur frequently falls on the side of the latter, because a “day job” pays the bills.
    Attempting to superimpose that analogy here, or find similarities; are numbers important?  Is the purpose of the message communication of an idea, or reach?  Is it finding like minds, or interesting debate?  Or is the purpose to sell the idea?
    I’m suspecting it’s not black and white, but just thought I’d throw the idea out there …  I’m assuming self-expression is the impetus, but then other drivers funnel the energy.

    1. jfwilson I disagree that a blog isn’t a conversation (we’re having one now, aren’t we? 🙂 and I agree that this debate is not exclusive to the online world whatsoever. Everyone wants attention and recognition for their work, even if they don’t admit it openly. 
      To your question are numbers important? Well they aren’t unimportant, especially if attention is what you seek. But there’s a difference between accumulating numbers (or views, or follows, etc) and accumulating numbers that actually care about what you’re talking about. 
      The purpose of a blog is subjective – very subjective. I write here as a means of self-expression. I’m not looking to become famous, or an A Lister, or whatever. I put my thoughts here and if they resonate with people, then great. A secondary benefit of resonance is, I may make new connections or find new opportunities for my business, but that’s not my raison d’être. But that may be different for someone else. 
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts! To me, that’s the big reward of all of this – to enter into discussion on ideas and have conversations.

      1. suzemuse jfwilson I think self-expression is the highest ideal in any pursuit, but always a challenge in a commercial world, if the pursuit itself is there to generate revenue.
        As for my use of the word “discussion”, I meant it in reference to the initial post you made.  I wrote this quickly and was at a loss for a word to refer to that post (see, there’s a better word already 🙂 ).  A blog, like yours, where there is engagement with others, is most definitely a discussion, and I find yours some of the most interesting.

  3. I like the conclusion. Generally, I think you shuldn’t even focus on the A-Listers. Just treat them like people, just like you and me. Serve those around you, and let the rest fall into place as it should. The A-List stuff and chasing big Klout scores are both distractions.

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